Last time on the Prime Good Dads blog, we discussed the power of creativity for Prime driver fathers and their families. Creative expression is a great way for over-the-road dads to bond with their families. But as we all know, creativity involves so much more than artistic skills: It involves thinking outside the box to solve problems.

Why is problem solving such an important skill for Prime fathers? How can you provide problem-solving opportunities to your children and grandchildren? Is there a way to improve your problem-solving abilities?

Good Dads spoke with seasoned Prime father Ron Hoover on these topics and more. Ron has six children and 13 grandchildren and has been a part of the Prime team since 2001. His experience has served him well in guiding others in the power of problem-solving.

Time management is a common problem among over-the-road fathers

When you’re away from your family for long stretches of time, it can be difficult to manage. Finding the right time to come home—to be there important moments in your child’s life—is crucial. The added challenge is finding the best ways to manage the limited time you have while at home. It’s difficult, but it’s not impossible. Ron says it’s crucial to manage your time and to realize the fact that you can’t be there for everything.

“Try to be there for them when they’re experiencing important events, whether it be baseball games or dance recitals,” he said. “Stay in communication with them; recognize what’s most important and try to spread that importance to everyone, not just a few of the children and grandchildren.”

We’ve discussed the power of time management and prioritization before on the blog, which is a form of problem solving. Ensure you’re on time, and dedicate some of that time to your family.

“It’s tough sometimes,” Ron admitted, “but you have to balance making the money both as a father and grandfather.

Utilize your life experience, and that of others, to help you solve problems

Problem-solving skills come with experience, Ron says. Learning how to creatively solve problems involves having an open mind and adjusting that mindset accordingly.

“If a problem needs to be solved, one way might have worked for you, but all situations aren’t the same,” he said.

Ron said that life experience comes in handy, but not to let it be a “boss.” Rather, have it be a “guidance,” or a starting off point. Being close-minded and stuck in your ways prevents you from growing and thinking outside the box.

For example, someone who has been working in the trucking industry for 30 years might have a different outlook or method for problem solving than a younger person who has been a part of the industry for less than five years. The older colleague might rely on their old experience to the point of close-mindedness. Let those 30 years of experience be a guide, but be open to different problem-solving methods through a growth mindset. You never know: you might learn something new!

Solve communication problems by finding out what works

Having a creative mindset helps over-the-road fathers. Communication is one of the most important concepts to nail down for Prime fathers and families. Finding a form of communication that works and a time that works are important, even if it’s short intervals each day.

“You’ve gotta be creative for how you can be there for them,” Ron emphasized. “Schedule the big events, even if you have to go without some sleep.”

Ron also mentioned the prevalence of social media. Some people are hesitant about it, or they aren’t sure how to navigate it. However, Ron said that if it’s important for your kids and grandkids, you have to make it a priority. He follows some of his children and grandchildren on social media as a means to keep up with their lives.

“Stay on top of their social media posts,” he said. “‘Liking’ actually means something to them! Be creative, use what’s available to you and let them know you’re thinking of them.”

Think outside of the box, and take your time if possible

Ron says as a Prime driver father, thinking outside of the box is something he does the most. This involves a lot of hands-on experience, working with what you have and thinking of the possible consequences and creative solutions to a problem. Don’t be afraid to ask others for advice. Even if you think you might know more than someone else, you might learn a thing or two if you just ask.

Sometimes you’ll have a limited time to solve a problem, or as Ron put it, “stomp out a fire quickly.” Even if you have to make a quick decision, he says you can’t be rash.

“As long as it’s not dangerous, take a few extra minutes and make sure you’re making the right (decision),” he explained. “You can’t say ‘I should have done that;’ you’ve gotta slow down your mind.”

For example, a driver may have to decide between sticking with a tight delivery schedule and fixing a mechanical problem with their truck. They have to weigh the pros and cons by assessing the situation. Is it worth it to push through to avoid being late or to fix the issue before the problem gets worse? Mistakes will happen, along with making the seemingly “wrong” decision. Take your time and think outside the box, and use potential mistakes as learning opportunities.

Be patient when teaching younger generations about problem-solving; know when to let them fail

When teaching your children or grandchildren how to solve problems, Ron said the last thing you want to do is be mean-spirited.

“Teach them to be sensible,” he said, “to think of their options on what’s going to happen. Teach them to try and balance.”

Ron admitted that when his children were growing up, he struggled with wanting to step in and help rather than letting them learn from their mistakes.

“Take a deep breath and let them make their decision and path,” he said. “The older they get, the harder it is for you to do. They have their own mind, and you can’t save them from mistakes.”

Final Words

There is no shortage of problems that Prime driver fathers need to solve. From obstacles in communication to work-life balance, Ron says that through it all, never forget the importance of family. Communicating creatively and looking for new solutions is a part of being a good dad.

“Stay involved as much as you can,” he stressed. “Your family is the only one you get; you’ve gotta do your best with it.