On a chilly day in January 2017, I nervously started my seven-month counseling internship, where half of my time was spent at Victory Mission Men’s Shelter in North Springfield.
Author Archives: Drew Dilisio
IT CAN BE HARD TO TALK ABOUT TRAUMA. LEARNING MORE ABOUT IT CAN HELP.
The Impact of Trauma “He used to love fireworks,” said a friend as she reflected on the impact a tour of duty in Iraq had on her loved one. “Now, the 4th of July is one of his least favorite holidays. The fireworks don’t bother him as much as they once did, but it’s still uncomfortable.” …
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WHY ROUGHHOUSING WITH DADS IS IMPORTANT TO CHILDREN
This week we bring you a blogpost from the Good Dads archives. This article was originally published in 2018, but we think you’ll find that the topics we cover here are just as relevant in 2023! There’s so much good information in The Boy Crisis by Warren Farrell PhD and John Gray, PhD that we could devote …
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SPIRITUALITY, MENTAL HEALTH, AND UNANSWERED QUESTIONS
I tend to be a curious person. I like to ask questions. Often at home when I do not understand something, I will wonder out loud, “Why?” or “How come?” For years this habit frustrated my wife. If you have ever been around a curious toddler, you know how my wife felt. She felt compelled …
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HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS AS A BUSY DAD
I get it – you want friends. But as a grown man and a father, that can be a weird thing to admit out loud. But the truth is, you don’t just want friends, you need friends. And you can’t afford to go any longer without them.
ROMANCE ISN’T DEAD—IT’S JUST DEAD TIRED.
Marriage and romance look different in your thirties and forties than it did when you were 22. I remember talking to a friend, let’s call him Ray, about how things were different with his wife Angela “back in the day.” I asked him to describe what he meant.
JUST SAY, “YES, DEAR!”
“Many things have been said about how to save your marriage. Some of them are even true!”
THE SECRET INGREDIENT FOR BETTER ANGER EXPRESSION
We’ve been thinking about anger all wrong.
Anger is not something to suppress, ignore or be ashamed of. In fact, expressing your anger in a safe and healthy way is one of the best things you can do for yourself. All you need is the confidence to do it right.
3 HEALTHY WAYS TO DEAL WITH ANGER
Riley was livid. His heart was pumping out of his chest. His hands were shaking, and all he could think about was, “This is it. It’s go time.”
THE TWO FACES OF ANGER
“I’m not angry. You’re the one yelling. Nothing I ever do is good enough for you. I can never do enough.” The conversation began with talk about some badly needed home repairs, but—as Josh and Annie so often did—the conversation quickly heated up and disintegrated into something less-than-productive. It began when Annie said she was …